The mental impacts of bullying, and how Dolly's Dream helps

Unlike physical scars, the mental wounds from bullying can be invisible, making it difficult for others to recognise the suffering of victims.

Young people in rural and remote areas are often deeply impacted by bullying. The tight-knit nature of small communities can create an environment where everyone knows each other, making it difficult for victims to escape their bullies.

Social media, while a tool for connection, can also exacerbate bullying, extending harmful behaviours beyond physical spaces and into the digital world.

It's important to understand the mental toll of bullying for us to create a supportive environment and encourage healing for those affected.


SHORT-TERM EFFECTS

• Anxiety and depression:

Imagine constantly worrying about running into bullies. That fear can turn into chronic stress, which might lead to anxiety disorders or depression over time.

In rural areas, the stigmas around mental health can make it even harder for people to seek help. Many victims might suffer in silence, fearing judgment from friends or adults, which can worsen their anxiety and depressive symptoms.

• Low self-esteem:

Being put down by bullies can really chip away young people's self-worth. Victims often start to believe the hurtful things said about them, thinking they’re unworthy or unlovable.

• Feelings of isolation:

Bullying can make people want to withdraw from social situations. Victims might avoid hanging out with friends or feel anxious in social settings, which can lead to loneliness and make feelings of depression even worse.

Living in rural areas often means there’s less anonymity than in bigger cities. Victims might feel trapped with no way to escape their bullies, which exacerbates their isolation. This feeling of being stuck can really amplify the emotional toll since support services may be limited or hard to access.

• Struggles in school and social life:

 For students, the mental weight of bullying can make it hard to focus on schoolwork. This struggle can result in lower grades, which reinforces feelings of inadequacy and keeps the bullying cycle going.

• Negative self-perception:

In smaller communities, victims might internalise their bullying experiences even more. Without diverse perspectives around them, they might find it tough to see their worth beyond what the bullies say.

 

LONG-TERM EFFECTS

The mental impact of bullying can linger well into adulthood. Studies have shown that those who were bullied as children often experience ongoing mental health issues, including:

• Enduring mental health issues: Many victims carry the scars of bullying into adulthood, facing persistent anxiety, depression, or even PTSD. And if you're out in the sticks, it can be extra tough to find help when you need it. It's like the bullies left, but their echo stayed behind.

• Relationship difficulties: Trust issues stemming from past bullying can complicate personal relationships. It makes it difficult to get close to people or keep healthy relationships going. Victims might find themselves always waiting for the other shoe to drop, even with good, supportive friends and partners.

• Unhealthy escape routes: Sometimes, to deal with all that leftover pain, people turn to alcohol, drugs, or unhealthy eating habits. It's like trying to put out a fire with gasoline - it might feel good for a second, but it just makes everything worse.

 

ADDRESSING THE ISSUE

Tackling the mental impact of bullying requires targeted strategies:

1. Raise awareness

Educate young people, families and communities about the effects of bullying and mental health can help break the silence. Dolly's Dream online safety and anti-bullying programs focus on the importance of empathy, respect, and kindness, and empower young people with the tools they need to navigate the digital world safely and responsibly.

Parents can go to Dolly's Dream Parent Hub or download the Beacon app to find free, useful resources on bullying, digital safety and how to help kids develop resilience and self-esteem.

2. Strengthen support networks

Developing accessible support systems, including counselling services and support groups, is essential.

Dolly's Dream offers a free, available 24/7 Support Line for those who need it most. We're also working with businesses, schools and sports clubs in rural and remote areas to deliver Mental Health First Aid training to bridge the gap of mental health services in these communities.

3. Encourage open conversation

Creating safe spaces for discussion about bullying and mental health can empower young people to share their experiences. Open conversations can help reduce stigma and foster a more supportive, understanding community.

4. Leverage technology

While social media can sometimes be a platform for bullying, it can also be a powerful tool for connection. We can use online platforms to promote positive interactions and support networks, giving those who feel isolated a way to reach out and connect.

 

Bullying can hit harder than we often realise, leaving lasting scars on mental health. But by understanding its effects, we can take meaningful steps to prevent it and support those who are struggling.

Remember, every act of kindness counts. Let’s keep the conversation going and work together to create a kinder, more supportive environment for everyone!

 

If you are concerned about a child or young person being bullied, call Dolly’s Dream Support Line at 0488 881 033. It’s free and available 24/7.

Download Beacon, a free cyber-safety app for every parent and carer, here https://bit.ly/3SKtV0u.